The 4 UNs – Phone First

Phone FirstI often wonder why someone would show up at your house  UNannounced, UNexpected and most importantly UNinvited.  In my opinion it has always been rude and it’s done so the unexpected visitor can have their “gotcha moment”.  With today’s technology, surprise visits are absolutely UNacceptable.Think about it.Why would someone run the risk of pissing off a “friend”?  Is it just for the sake of being rude?  Why would a “friend” risk losing a “friend” just to be nosey?
They must really feel they have something to gain by “popping over” unannounced.

Maybe your house is always well kept and they want to catch you off guard.  They want to believe that you are a poor housekeeper (probably just like them) and the only way to prove it is to show up unexpectedly.  So, they’ll take a chance and maybe “catch you in the act”.

Perhaps you’re well coiffed and they want to see how you look. How you really look.  How you really dress.  How your kids behave when they think no one is looking  They want nothing more than to see you having a bad day.  They want to see it for themselves.  They want proof that your life isn’t perfect, although you never said it was.  Just knowing and seeing that they may catch you at an awkward moment makes them feel better about themselves.

When you ask why didn’t they call, they’ll say that they were in the neighborhood or they didn’t think you’d mind.  Neither response explains why they did not call, and why in the hell wouldn’t you mind.  Oddly enough, your house is kept, you’re coiffed and the kids are behaved, but now you’re pissed and have to deal with this unexpected visitor for about 30 minutes; who will “pop over” again unannounced in a couple of months.

There are no excuses.  It’s always rude.  Phone first.

I’m Just Sayin’…(Damn!)


4 comments for “The 4 UNs – Phone First

  1. September 15, 2012 at 6:22 pm

    Oh yeah, a comment in September from something you wrote in May. But I just joined your site, so I’m catching up..and yes, stalking. I had to comment because I have a frenemy that does this stopping by thing..she always has the same reasoning. “I haven’t heard from you in a while, so I thought I’d stop by..” Ugh Really? The “I haven’t heard from you in a while” didn’t tip you off? I’m generally a nice person, but please. NEVER feel like you can just pop on over to my house. I’m never ready for that. Even when I am expecting you, I’m never ready….

    • September 16, 2012 at 1:39 am

      Michele –
      Thank you for reading & commenting. It doesn’t matter to me when you read or comment just as long as you do. 🙂 I tell you “popping over” has to be my number one pet peeve. I hate it when my mother does it and when a frenemy does it my claws come out and stay out for a while, usually long after she’s gone. I have never popped up over anyone’s house. To me it is just absolutely rude.

  2. Jen
    April 4, 2013 at 4:52 am

    Yeah, no way. If you come to my house unexpectedly, you are standing in the doorway while we chat. If you want to be invited in, then you better have been invited!

    • April 5, 2013 at 12:33 am

      I agree. There have been times I just let the doorbell ring. Oh well. Next time, they’ll call.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *