They must really feel they have something to gain by “popping over” unannounced.
Maybe your house is always well kept and they want to catch you off guard. They want to believe that you are a poor housekeeper (probably just like them) and the only way to prove it is to show up unexpectedly. So, they’ll take a chance and maybe “catch you in the act”.
Perhaps you’re well coiffed and they want to see how you look. How you really look. How you really dress. How your kids behave when they think no one is looking They want nothing more than to see you having a bad day. They want to see it for themselves. They want proof that your life isn’t perfect, although you never said it was. Just knowing and seeing that they may catch you at an awkward moment makes them feel better about themselves.
When you ask why didn’t they call, they’ll say that they were in the neighborhood or they didn’t think you’d mind. Neither response explains why they did not call, and why in the hell wouldn’t you mind. Oddly enough, your house is kept, you’re coiffed and the kids are behaved, but now you’re pissed and have to deal with this unexpected visitor for about 30 minutes; who will “pop over” again unannounced in a couple of months.
There are no excuses. It’s always rude. Phone first.
I’m Just Sayin’…(Damn!)