Your Children Do Not Belong To You

Mama said there’d be days like this…but there is nothing in life that prepares you for being a parent.  I mean, one day you’re not and the next day you are.
So for the most part, you wing it.
You do your best to learn on the fly and you adjust accordingly.
After all, this is your child and like all things you own and care about, you will protect and keep it safe, but here’s the thing,children aren’t ITs
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Your children do not belong to you;
you just lease them for awhile
from the first time you hear them laugh,
from the first time you see them smile

You try to protect them
from everything YOU fear
because everyday THEY grow
and you know the end is near.

Your children do not belong to you
although that’s not how it seems
from the day they are born
you begin to shape THEIR dreams.

Your children do not belong to you
they NEVER did
and now you know
as everyday becomes harder
and you’re forced to watch them grow.

Your children do not belong to you,
and no matter how hard you try
they’ll grow one day to realize that
and something in YOU dies.

Your children do not belong to you
and you hope one day within
they will come to realize
all was done for them.

“Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

But how old is old?

I’m Just Sayin’…(Damn!)

6 comments for “Your Children Do Not Belong To You

  1. October 29, 2012 at 8:54 pm

    I have a 19 year old, and I’m still not ready. Yes, they are borrowed. I feel so selfish trying to hold on. It’s hard to let go. You just have to know you did your best. I don’t think I’ll ever be ready to fully let go.

    I don’t know if you accept awards for your blog, but I’m giving you one. It’s the Sunshine award. If you’d like it, pop over to my blog and grab it. You can play around with the requirements or you can just post it and call it a day. 🙂

    • October 29, 2012 at 9:54 pm

      I agree with you, it is hard to let go, but if we’ve done our best to raise them, we can take some comfort in that.
      Thank you for the award. I really appreciate it. You can never have too much Sunshine!

      Thank you for not being a silent reader 😀

  2. November 5, 2012 at 12:03 am

    As I sit on my couch and watch my 2 & 3 year old run around.Your post brought a tear to my eye as I think of the day I will have to let the go.But let me go cause I gotta go “train” them so thar they can be prepared. 😉

    • November 5, 2012 at 11:35 pm


      I have 3 kids and my youngest is 15, everyday I hope that I have “trained” them the best way possible. I was absolutely bawling by the time I had finished the poem. Thanks for reading and commenting!

  3. November 19, 2012 at 2:38 am

    Wow, this is how I feel every single day! I know that someday I will have to let her fly..but that day is not today and boy am I glad.

    Thank you so much for reading my blog and leaving those lovely words. I am so glad I found your blog. I have read one page after another and I feel like I still want to read more!
    Hope we will keep in touch through our blogs 🙂

    • November 19, 2012 at 7:35 pm

      It is really hard. I had to let go recently and it bothers me everyday. I know it will get better over time.

      I really enjoy reading your blog as well and I hope we do keep in touch. Follow me an I will do the same.

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